Stressed Mums.

Today in the newspaper, there is a lot more news on the McCanns missing daughter Madeleine. If there are any mums reading this please take note! In the mother's dairy she wrote how hard she was finding the daughter and the twins!!! Wow! Breaking news! Most mothers find looking after children is often stressful and tiring...especially if they are also working. Also bare in mind it is a daughter and twins in a very short space of time!!!
The myth of "beautifully calm and joyful" motherhood is one that still seems to be well and living in the minds of newspaper men! Babies and children are hard work but wonderful at the same time. When one writes a dairy it is normally to get rid of your frustrations, so you don't take them out on others or because you feel unable to tell anyone how you feel.Maybe because you feel guilt, others may have told you ,you won't cope because you are too old or young or may be you are worried that social services may hear and also think you are not coping! Either way...dairies are normally private, personal and a help to feeling more in control. O.K. sometimes it is a cry for help but in this case l feel it was a way of sorting out her feeling.

Mothers are often trying to be perfect in the World's eyes. A perfect wife, a perfect mother, a perfect daughter and daughter-in-law, a perfect friend and be perfect at their job. Even if you are not working that is still quite a list. On top of that many women are having to cope as lone parents. It's no wonder these days women feel so pressured. I see many women and couples in my practice that are finding day to day life stressful and this is effecting their marriages, home life and Ask for help! I am aware that so many people live away from their families or even their own countries. If you feel you are unable to talk to family members, community nurses of friends...try a counsellor or therapist..talking is a start!.

I have found out through my work as a therapist, Life Coach and photographer... life can be fun...if you are prepare to let it! By that l mean life is complicated enough with out human's trying to make it harder. Money is often the reason people are not happy. Believe me money is very useful but not always really the answer. You can spend time with your partner and or children with out spending any money. A walk or a visit to gallery or museum. O.k l know the not every one lives near a park or a gallery but there are other things. What ever happened to playing games after dinner or in the afternoon or just going for a walk to pick conkers? I have just been listening to some 30something women talking about how much they spent in this Summer holiday! I was amazed. Even if you are working, spending time with the children on days off or wkends should be quality time not MONEY time surely!I have had children, so l do know how difficult it is to find free things to amuse them with. On the other hand, if they don't learn how to amuse themselves..we, as a nation are really in trouble. I think this is already happening. Bored and unmotivated children spell trouble.
It was different when my 30something children were young but just as difficult. Now there are Breakfast Clubs, After School clubs, Dance classes, mini yoga,Art classes and Saturday Clubs..when do children see their parents? O.k l hear all you working parents shouting at me! But honestly is "Keeping up with the Jones" )in some cases), is it worth you not seeing your children's childhood? I appreciate there are a lot of parents out there that have no choice but to the others...think about it Please.